I can remember as a little girl, always wishing to be more like someone else. It’s something I have struggled with my entire life. Being just me had never seemed good enough. It’s something I still struggle with to this day. I’m still trying to figure out who I am and what is special about me.
I wanted to talk about this today because I feel mental health is just as important as physical health. Thinking back to all of my friendships I’ve always tried to copy what my friends did, what they wore, how they acted. I’ve struggled with being my own self. The hardest part to it now is that I compare success. I see everyone with their successful lives and I feel unsuccessful because I can’t write like them, or I can’t take pictures like them, or I can’t stay determined like them.
And although it has come to my attention many times, I’ve never really admitted it to myself. So here I am staying accountable with you all. I’m hoping that through out this blogging journey I find myself and learn to stop comparing. I know how unhealthy it is for me and my family.
With that said, I’m going to give myself some motivation, and hopefully you all as well.
Reasons to stop comparing and just be yourself:
- Comparing brings defeat when you’re unable to do the same and receive the same
- Wishing to be like someone else ruins your self esteem and confidence
- You are a different person with different skills, that other people don’t have
- Nobody is prefect, even those you compare yourself to have flaws
- Your life experiences make you unique
- Success comes with individuality and skills, just because it worked for one person doesn’t mean it will work for you the same way
I know that things get tough and we think things would be way easier if we were just like this person and could do it how they do it. What we tend to forget is the people we compare ourselves to had to start from some where too.
Yes, some people are just lucky, however luck does run out and skills, experience and unique personality are what keeps things going for everyone.
So maybe you are really struggling with something and you think it’s to hard, and it would be so much easier if I were that person. Think to yourself, what do you have that you could use to your advantage? Write down your skills, personality traits, everything that is unique about you and put a start next to anything that could be helpful in your goal.
Brainstorm ideas on what is special about you, because you are special. Nobody is like you, and nobody could be you better than you.
Self love and confidence are so important for our mental health as well as our physical health. We need to start thinking more about what is great about us than what is great about others. I hope to help countless others with this on my own journey to find myself.
Whay do you struggle with? What are you always comparing and wish you could stop? Let’s talk:)